SO YOU HAVE A SPECIAL NEEDS CHILD.....Hang in there with me
....After the heartache of finding out your child has a disorder or something wrong or something genetic - its ok you will be alright but it takes alot of work and it's a heavy mountain to climb. It's not the end of the world, yet it is the end of certain expectations we held for our son or daughter.
You are living at the high end of the stress scale now - but hang in there with me - I am there too...
Mild, moderate, severe whatever labels they give it, you have to deal with much stress to do with helping your child, early intervention, therapy, doctors visits, pediatricians. Whichever which way you turn - its not easy.
I want you to know there is still hope and not to give up - there were be highs and lows on this path with your child - but hang in there with me I am on the same road. Many things go through the fire but this kind of fire only the real gold lasts in your life. This kind of trial for your life will yield lasting character for you that is forever - you will find purpose for your life yes even with this to go through. I want you to know I have been there and i am still here and I am here for you....
Whatever happens, you have to look after you and love yourself and help yourself climb this road of adversity they you are on whether you chose it or not. As you do you will find direction for you life and people that you never would have found on any other road. Those who are shallow people will dissolve from your life - those who are real and deeper will stick with you and isn't that always better anyway? Everybody goes through adversity or hard times - dont put yourself down for it, other people will go through their own adversity one day - this is yours now.
Your child is precious and wonderful love him or her and find the gold in the moments you raise them.
I am with you in this - Parents you basically need more respite and rest than other parents and our society needs to provide this. Meanwhile let us help each other to keep going and help our child...
Support and care is needed for you, and you need to look for it, dont knock back any help. You will need all the help you can get and all the reserves of emotional resources and love to help you go on, and even spiritual reserves. You need it all.
One day you will be able to help someone else through their own adversity whether it is the same or completely different. Your adversity is in dealing with the pressure to do the right things, other people's uncaring or lack of understanding and the stress of all the work you have to do for your child.
If you are on your own - that is another stress, along with money stress - but you will be ok. Lets break down these walls. Give your all and hang in there with me.
It takes a deeper kind of love to love a special child or any child -from deep inside I know you will find it..... dont give up even though it feels so hard - there are still dreams for you to go for...